The Bonds of Marriage

Modesty
Compassion
Benevolence
Respect
Obey
Love
Harmony
Tolerance
Righteousness

The above list are not just simple word’s, but that that which is necessary for a good foundation within the bonds of any marriage.

The strongest bonds in which Allah (Hashem) unites two people is within the unity of the two people in the spirit of love and in marriage, it is also one of the strongest components within society itself and is half of what is considered a blessing by Allah (Hashem) towards Paradise.

A couple should be pleasing to the eyes with honest love within the heart, along with contentment in each other’s company which not only brings peace of mind, but one should be a good listener towards each other; especially to ones husband, while obeying them for it not just pleases the husband, but Allah (Hashem). If one can not do this, they should not marry, for not doing that which is in the bond’s of marriage carries enough weight in Allah (Hashem) teachings and this also goes with Haram (sin‘s) by not following the dictates within marriage or the palimonies towards marriage. But one should always remember, that marriage is an honorable institution, which is not only important; but paves the way of half that Allah (Hashem) requires towards Paradise, for many sins are averted within the bonds of a good marriage; between a man and a woman.

The art of being feminine is as the lush, delicate foliage and majesty of a fanning peacock; which is not just pleasing to the eyes, warmth in one’s speech, but gives contentment to everyone’s heart.-HRM Zaytuna

Further in appearance, while one should be modest in appearance; it is also important not to look like an unmade bed, a caretaker of pig’s, have the appearance of a yard laborer or the appearance of an unbelieving harlot, for this is not just unpleasing to Allah (Hashem); but is showing poorness to oneself and disrespect to ones spouse, as well as others.

While there is many obligations within the home, as a husband is required to earn a living and care for the family; a wife is also obligated to fulfill their tasks and leave nothing lacking. For any form of laziness is not only unacceptable, but is haram (sin) and Shaytan (Satan) has more of an open opportunity to whisper further haram’s (sin‘s) in the ear.

In all thing’s one should look towards Paradise and cleave not to anything in this world, especially when one would put their spouse in jeopardy or undue sorrow; as in many cases to abandon or disobey a husband or abandon a wife without just cause, such as the example of requiring something materialistic over ones family. As to Allah (Hashem), these types of act’s are not just punishable by Him, but in some circumstances also by the Caliph which can be mild to severe according to the dictates by law; but nevertheless, put’s a person to the lessening of seeing Paradise.

Also, if people are not careful by not creating a happy marriage, there will come a time when Allah (Hashem) will cease children from being born and the blessing by Allah (Hashem) by a birth; as well as other blessings, will no longer be showered upon the earth or the family; it will simply cease to occur anymore. As to any other Haram’s (sin’s) that occur, the punishment by Allah (Hashem) can be light or most severe according to what the Haram (sin) is; as mentioned previously, such as maltreatment towards a spouse or disobeying a husband for example's.

Marriage is a life commitment that should never be taken into lightly, not just in consideration the religious laws pertaining to marriage; but one should take into consideration ones culture. For in doing so, one has a better chance of the marriage being successful, due in one aspect of the elevation of ‘Culture Clash (Cultural Disharmony).’ For it has been found in too many cases a mix marriage ended in the short term with divorce; with two very unhappy people or very broken hearts. There is an old saying that comes from my home country that basically says, “Marry your own kind and you shall always be happy;” because of not just the many factors involved, but one in particular, “for you shall always be happy.”

And Allah has made for you Azwaj (mates or wives) of your own kind and has made for you, from your wives, sons and grandsons and has bestowed on you good provision. Do they then believe in false deities and deny the Favour of Allah (the polytheists and the wrongdoers).

An-Nahl 16:72, 73

And they worship others besides Allah such as do not and cannot own any provision for them from the heavens or the earth.-

While in the laws of Islam for instance it states that a man can marry whom he wishes for the children are raised in the husbands faith, when this law was originally created one tends to forget is at the time the people around them were similar to themselves and with the advancement's over time, this has changed somewhat; especially in consideration the high rate of divorce for example, of Muslim men marrying Western women with the extreme cultural differences and in the case of some of these women with intent of internal undesirable deceptiveness; is considered a type of thief and some of these women have been known to lead the Muslim (or Jewish) husband (as well as the children born of such a union and future generations) astray from Allah (Hashem); to the losing of their faith.

As to this type of method being used is not something that is new, but has been used at different times historically in various parts of the world usually to destroy an indigenousness people or for religious persecution, predominantly among the polytheists and the wrongdoers or in some cases during wartime. While the method is used as a falsified form of marriage, there have been many cases where outright abusive rape has occurred; not just among women, but female children.

Less one should forget, when one enters into marriage; Allah (Hashem) creates one whole person; not two, in righteousness and if one has been truly good in this life, they are most likely marrying their soul mate and own a provision for them from the heavens or the earth.

Selfishness, is as a child that has not learned to share or be kind to others.

Foolish selfish people are always thinking of themselves and the result always negative. Wise persons think of others, helping them as much as they can and the result is happiness. -The Dalai Lama

Furthermore, in all thing’s one should never be selfish for it also tends to bare with it a lying person, to falling into a pit of numerous despicable Haram’s (sin’s) such as crime, for example or being disrespectful towards anyone; which one should never do, no matter who they are; for if they are not careful, one day they will find themselves standing completely alone, being held accountable by Allah (Hashem) for these grave transgressions.

The Righteous Woman

An accomplished woman who can find?
Far beyond pearls is her value.
Her husband's heart relies on her
and she shall lack no fortune.
She bestows goodness upon him, never evil,
all the days of her life.
She seeks wool and flax and her hands work willingly.
She is like a merchant’s ship;
from afar she brings her substance.

She arises while it is yet night,
and gives food to her household and a portion to her maidens.
She envisions a field and buys it;
from the fruit of her handiwork she plants a vineyard.

With strength she girds her loins and invigorates her arms.
She discerns that her enterprise is good;
her lamp is not snuffed out by night.
She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
and her palms support the spindle.

She spreads out her palm to the poor
and extends her hands to the destitute.
She fears not snow for her household,
for all her household is clothed in scarlet wool.
She made for herself luxurious bedspreads;
linen and purple wool are her clothing.
Her husband is distinctive in the councils,
when he sits with the elders of the land.

She makes a cloak and sells it
and delivers a belt to the peddler.
Strength and majesty are her reinvented
she joyfully awaits the last day.
She opens her mouth with wisdom
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
She anticipates the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of laziness.

Her children have risen and praise her; her husband and he extolled her:
“Many women have amassed achievement, but you surpassed them all.”
Grace is false and beauty vain; a woman who fears Allah (Hashem), she shall be praised.
Give her the fruits of her hands; and let her be praised in the gates by her very own deeds.-Proverbs 31:10-31



Everlasting Love

There is an old saying, ‘to never go to a lemon orchard to find a spouse; that the only thing a lemon orchard is good for is to make lemonade.




That it make take time walking down the road to find the right spouse, but while it is worth the wait; one may never know, the right person may come just around the corner before you expect them.’

A picture combo shows the moon during a total lunar eclipse in Tel Aviv on 15 June 2011. Allah's (Hashem's) warning of the diminishment of righteous womanhood.

As for the wives, when was the last time you put on modest vibrant colors other then constant black [(the color of mourning) As of Muslim women, more than just the Hijab.], greet your husband with a smile instead of looking as though one ate a raw lemon when he came home after a hard days work, with a nice dinner waiting on the table, keeping ones expenditures within the husbands means, giving the family security cheerfully, a happy time playing a game, a good conversation or having an outing that would please the children, having Etiquette in ones overall manner, following all the laws that was given by Allah (Hashem), keeping the hem of ones garment clean of filth, with the most powerful element one can give there family is love and not allowing these things that was injected by the US many years ago in an attempt to destroy Middle Eastern cultures; too undermine what made Middle Eastern women such an eloquent model of womanhood all over world for thousands of years.

"For a good wife is worth more than rubies."

It has also been a written warning from every Prophet (PBUH) since the beginning of time, that such negative behavior as what is being seen even in this time period; that such a person would never see Paradise (Heaven) and those that very seldom reach Paradise (Heaven), is women.

"They have became no better than the prostitutes in the house's of false gods."

Now let's talk about wedding's, there will no longer be westernized lavish weddings which includes western wedding dresses; but shall return to traditional weddings that are blessed by Allah (Hashem). Men are not required to lavish upon a bride enough gold to choke a horse [The jewelry must be sold and Zakat (Mitzvah) must be paid to the orphan's and widow's, for they caused the murder's for such to become so. For these women are accused by Allah (Hashem) of murder.]  nor such a thing as an engagement ring, for this is not found among us. The husband shall bestow upon his bride a simple wedding band of gold, that is worn on the right hand ring finger as is Middle Eastern custom.

The traditional agreement of a Dowry, which shall be between the future husband and the future brides father only and cannot be excessive nor can any type of income be requested towards the Queen. As to any act of coercion for ill-gotten gain, it is considered a high crime and is punishable to the full extent of the law.


Furthermore, it should go without saying that children should respect there fathers.

"An honorable union, has been turned into a den of Harlots."

Marriage is an honorable institution, blessed by Allah (Hashem) and not for materialistic gain. A woman is required to have at least a basic religious education, for if she is ask a question; she shall be able to give the correct answer to every question or the marital union cannot come to pass and mandatory traditional marriage training. Also, no one shall marry anyone that is a fallen person for this is unlawful and also any type of foreign spouses, is unlawful. Foreign spouses are also not allowed to reside in Israel or have citizenship.

Israel is also a closed country towards any foreign immigration and foreign commercial, political enterprise [such as the illegal US Occupation (including all US military activities on land, sea and air), oil exploration, subversive influences, illicit monetary gains, robbery, raiding, terrorism, genocide].-HRM Deborah

"The soul shall be utterly cut off; its iniquity shall be with it."